甜蜜爱情的禁忌(Sweet love taboo).doc 6页

甜蜜爱情的禁忌(Sweetlovetaboo)　　itsnteasthaveagreatrelatinshipithurb/girlfriend,partner,rspusebutitsntipssible,eitherittaesser,furse,butitsr,rthatsaheneverthingestgether　　altfties,thugh,therisntenughegetinurnaithideasandattitudesabutrelatinshipsthatarentnlrng,butftenrtunderineurrelatinshipsnatterhharderatit　　iveathedaltfbreaups(sefthen)iveseendraatiflare-upsanddran-utslfades,andivetriedtpaattentinthatseestbegingnhereareafefthethingsiveseenthatausepepletdestrtheirnrelatinships　　1ureplaingtin　　nefthedeadliestillersfrelatinshipsisthepetitiveurgeidnteanpetitininthesensethatuantstandtlseattennis,ieantheattitudethattherelatinshipitselfisaindfgaethaturetingtinpepleinpetitiverelatinshipsarealaslingfranadvantage,theupperhand,seedgetheanhldvertheirpartnersheadifufeelthattherearethingsuanttellurpartnerbeausesherheilluseitagainstu,ureinapetitiverelatinshipbutntfrlng　　2udnttrust　　therearetaspetsftrustthatareiprtantinrelatinshipsneistrustingurpartnerenughtnthats/hentheatnurtherisehurtuandtnthathershetrustsuthata,tthetheristrustingtheenughtnthentleave urstplvingunatterhatudrsathesendthatlevelftrustisgne,hetherbeausenefutaesadvantagefthattrustanddessethinghrriblerbeausenefuthinsthetherhas,therelatinshipisverevenifittaes10reearsfrutbreaup　　3udnttal　　tanpeplehldtheirtnguesabutthingsthatbtherrupsettheintheirrelatinship,eitherbeausethedntantthurttheirpartner,rbeausetheretringtin(see#1abve;exaple:ifudntnhiad,iertainlntgingttellu!)hilethisightaethingseasierintheshrtter,inthelngrunitgraduallerdesthefundatinftherelatinshipaalittleissuesgrintbiggerandbiggerprblesprblesthatdntgetfixedbeauseurpartnerisblissfullunaare,rrse,isttallaarefthebutthinsthedntreallbtheruultiatel,eepingquietrefletsalaftrustand,asisaidthatsthedeathfarelatinship　　4udntlisten　　listeningrealllisteningisharditsnraltanttdefendurselveshenehearsethingthatseeslieritiis,sinsteadfreallhearingseneut,einterrupttexplainrexuseurselves,returninardtprepareurdefensebuturpartnerdeservesurativelistenings/heevendeservesuthearthebeteen-the-linesntentfdailhit-hat,tsussuthis/herdreasanddesireshenevens/hedesntevennexatlhattheareifuantlistenthata,atleasttthepersnulve,theresaprble　　uspendlieasingle persn　　thisasahardlessnfretlearnuntilitbreupa7-earrelatinshiphenuresingle,uanbuhateveruant,heneveruant,ithlittleregardfrthefutureitsntneessarilise,buturethenlnehhastpathensequeneshenuareithseneinalng-terrelatinship,thatisnlngerapssibiliturpartnerandurhildren,iftherearerillbeanillhavetbearthebruntfurspending,sudbettergetinthehabitftaingarefhusehldneessitiesfirstandthen,iftheresanthingleftver,fdisussingithurpartnerthebestatuseit　　thisisaninreasingprblethesedas,beausereandrepepleareptingteeptheirfinanesseparate,evenhentherearriedtheresnthingrngiththatindfarrangeentinandfitself,butitdeandsreuniatinandinvlveentbeteenthepartners,ntlessifurespendingneasifitasurneandnbdelsehasarightttelluhattdithit,urrelatinshipisded　　6ureafraidfbreaingup　　nbdinatrulhapppartnershipisafraidfbreaingupifuare,thatsabigarningsignthatsethingsrngbutften,hatsrngisthefearitselfntnldesitbetraalaftrust,butitshsalafself-nfideneandself-esteeureafraidthattheresngdreasnfrsenetanttbeithu,andthatsnerrlaterurpartnerilliseupandtaeffsupurreenerginteepinguptheappearanefahapprelatinshipsthanudintbuildingurselfupasapersnquitefranl,thisisntgingtbeversatisfingfru,anditalsisntgingtbeversatisfingfrur partner　　7uredependent　　theresathinlinebeteenpaninshipandsupprtanddependenifudependnurpartnerthatis,ifuabslutelanntliveithutherrhiuverssedthatlinethepressureisnnurpartnertfillhateversissinginuapressures/heilllearntresentifuexpeturpartnertbringeverthinghileubringnthingturrelatinshipanditalingfinanesasellasetinalsupprt,hereureintruble(nte:intsaingthatuneedtntributeequallthusehldfinaneshatisaingisthatifurentntributingtthehusehldbudget,andurentntributinganhereelse,thingsareutfhaandthatsnevergd)　　8uexpethappiness　　asignfabadrelatinshipisthatnerbthpartnersexpeteithertaethetherhapprfrtheirpartnertaethehappthisisntnlanunrealistiexpetatintlanurselfrnthenbdanaeuhapp,exeptubutitsanunrealistiexpetatintlanurrelatinshiprelatinshipsarentnlabutbeinghapp,andtheresltsftieshenuntandevenshuldntbebeingabletrelnseneevenhenureupset,iserable,depressed,rgrievingisaltreiprtantthanbeinghappallthetieifuexpeturpartnertaeuhapprrse,urefrustratedbeauseuarentabletaeurpartnerhappurrelatinshipisntgingtfareellhenithitsarughspt　　9uneverfight　　agdarguentisessential,evernandtheninpart,arguinghelpsbringutthelittlestuffbefreitbeesar,butals,fightingexpressesanger hihisaperfetlnralpartfahuansetinalae-upurrelatinshiphastbestrngenughthldallfhuare,ntustthesunnstuff　　nereasnuplesdntfightisthatthefearnflithihrefletsalaftrustandafundatinffearthatsbadantherreasnuplesavidarguentsisthatthevelearnedthatangerisunreasnableandunprdutivethevelearnedthatarguingrepresentsabreadnratherthananaturalpartfarelatinshipsdevelpenthileanarguentisntpleasant,itanhelpbthpartnerstartiulateissuestheanthaveevennnthehadandhelpeepthefrsieringuntilurssalineuantebafr　　10uexpetittbeeas/uexpetittbehard　　therearetdeeplprbleatiattitudesabutrelatinshipsihearftenneisthatarelatinshipshuldbeeas,thatifurealllveeahtherandareeanttbetgether,itillritselfutthetheristhatanthingrthhavingisgingtbehardandthattherefreifitshard,itustberthhaving　　theutefbthviesisthatudntraturrelatinshipudntrbeauseitssuppsedtbeeasandtherefrentneedanr,rudntrbeauseitssuppsedtbehardandituldntbehardifuredatitinbthases,uquilgetburntuteitherbeausetheprblesureignringrealldntgaaustbeauseuthintheshuldrbeausetheprblesureultivatingareanstantdragnurenergarelatinshipthatstuhrightbesufferingfrneftheattitudesabve,butarelatinshipthatdesntseetneedanrisntanbetter　　ur hies　　thereisntanneansertanftheprblesabvetherearehiesthugh:uaneitherseeutananser,sethingthataddresseshuarehurtingurrelatinship,ruanresignurselftthefailurefurrelatinship(andabethenextne,andthenextne,and…)failuredesntalaseanubreaupanpeplearentthatlubutpepleanlivequiteunhappilinfailedrelatinshipsfrearsandevendeadesbeausethereafraidthentfindanthingbetter,rrse,thereafraidthedeserveitdntubeneftheifusufferfranftheseprbles,figureuthtfixit,hetherthateanstherap,asluntainretreat,rusttalingturpartnerandittingurselvesthange